Some parents make it easier for children to be defiled – DSVRT coordinator

Titilola Vivour-Adeniyi, the coordinator of the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team, has revealed that some parents make it easier for children to be defiled.

She made the revelation in a chat with TheNation, while revealing the factors fueling sexual violence. She said: “According to the data gathered from our research, the first factor is the abused abuser factor.


Another factor was that some people said they had poor performance with their peers –this is real data. Some said it was as a result of poor erectile dysfunction and they were tempted because the children obviously would not laugh at them.

However, it is important to state that some people actually make it easier for children to be defiled. The idea of leaving children with neigbours is condemnable. Parents are not supposed to leave their precious jewels with any kind of person.

Perpetrators don’t just pounce on children, they groom them.  They gain their trust, get their confidence and it can start with something so basic but you will be amazed what that can do to a child over a period of time.  Some people will say why didn’t the child speak up?

It’s because the child did not know better and that is the danger we have in sexual violence. Society most times often blame the victim, even when it is a child. These are the things perpetrators take advantage of and use to groom children.”

An example of what Titilola Vivour-Adeniyi spoke of is the story of a 16-year-old girl who died after she was allegedly raped and impregnated by her family doctor at the Federal Medical Center, Bida, Niger State.

 The teenager identified as Fatima Yusuf was said to have lost her life after she gave birth to her baby.
Prior to her death, she was raped repeatedly and impregnated by the doctor, Dr. Seyi, who treated her mother ,while she was admitted at the hospital for diabetes .