A young mum has revealed how her phobia of being without her mobile phone,
known as 'nomophobia,' is so severe she refuses to leave the house unless the
battery is at least 60 percent charged.
Sara
Jayne Widdowson, 27, says her fear is so extreme that if her phone runs out of
battery, or there is no reception, she has an anxiety attack, which sees her
heart rate race and her palms become sweaty and shaky.
"The more phones improve, the harder it gets
because there is so much more to do without," said Sara Jayne, of
Worcester, in the West Midlands.
"Now,
you can email, call, text, use apps and even send out your GPS signal if you
need help. If you're without your phone, you're cutting off all those forms of
contact.
"My
phobia has got worse since I had my son Corey, now two. I'm constantly
imagining worst case scenarios and worrying something bad will happen and
nobody will be able to reach me."
Stay-at-home
mum Sara Jayne, who is engaged to partner Adrian Clarke, 35, said she believes
the trigger for her anxieties lies in a traumatic incident from her childhood,
when she was followed home from school.
She
continued: "One day, I was followed home by a man in a van. The police got
involved, and nobody was ever caught, but it shook me up.
"This
was in the days before mobile phones, but if I'd had one, I could have called
for help."
Bullied
at school over everything from her weight to the fact her family was on
benefits, she was both taunted and physically abused.
On one
occasion, her uniform was torn.
On
another, flour and egg were rubbed into her hair, matting it together.
"I'd
go home bleeding after being beaten up," she recalled.
"I
think life would have been easier if I'd had a phone, just so I had a way of
contacting my mum Dawn or my nan Dorothy to say I needed help."
Sara
Jayne said getting her first ever mobile phone as a teenager made her feel
instantly relieved.
Able to
contact her loved ones at all times, she felt less isolated as she faced the
daily barage of cruel teasing.
But,
over time, she grew increasingly dependent on her mobile, eventually developing
a phobia of being without it.
Seeking
help from her doctor, he suggested her anxieties could be linked to the
emotional scars left by her childhood bullying.
As a
result she ensures her battery registers at least 60 per cent at all times and
keeps her charger with her.
She
keeps a spare charger in her car and has left several at the houses of friends
and families to reassure her that she will always be able to charge her phone.
She
even has a back up phone – an old Nokia – in case of emergency and favours her
Samsung over an iPhone, as she believes the battery life on the popular Apple
handsets is not as strong.
Poor
reception is another major worry.
"We've
just moved and the signal here isn't as good as my old house," she said.
"That worries me. If I'm expecting a phone call, I absolutely have to be
somewhere with good reception.
"I
hate it when people tell me they've been trying to get hold of me but couldn't.
It makes me really anxious.
"If
my entire network went down, I don't think I'd leave the house. I know it
sounds dramatic, but I wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy myself if I knew I
was totally unreachable."
Sara
Jayne's main worry is that something would happen to her or a family member and
she wouldn't be able to seek help.
Although
her phone has only died on a few occasions when there's been an urgent
situation – once when she fell in the street, and once when she missed a train
her mum was expecting her to get – she lives in near constant fear of it
happening again.
"I
take my phone everywhere, even to the loo," she said. "I keep it in
my bra rather than a bag because I worry my bag could get stolen.
"A
lot of my family and friends don't know about my phobia, but they joke about
how I can't be without my phone.
"I
can't see myself getting better, either.
"As
a society, we're so dependant on phones.
"Realistically,
we don't actually need them, but they're everything to people now, and I don't
think that will change."
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